Generally speaking, time-outs are a last resort action in response to ‘unacceptable behaviour’, the definition of which can vary between families. For example issues like: violence towards other members of the family, dangerous play, rudeness, swearing, continual ignoring of simple polite requests or just simply when the child is out of control and cannot be reasoned with.

Time-outs are also brilliant if YOU feel you are losing it too! Keeping calm and in control are probably one of the most important parenting techniques around.

As responsible parents, we need to point out that time-outs should not be over-used or made too routine as they may lose their effectiveness. There may be times when it is not appropriate to use a time-out, such as if your child is only being slightly non-compliant, or if they are bored and have resorted to bad behaviour to get attention. Another scenario not to use time-outs is if your child is upset because they have a big feeling like fear or pain and what the child really needs is a big hug and a chat.